As we talked before about developing our characters or personalities and mentioned the main principals that we must take in consideration , today we are going to talk about how to improve our personalities or simply, the ways by which we can accomplish enhancing our characters or personalities.
Be a better listener:
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most
charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill
of
being an exceptional listener. She was known for the way she
would look a person in the eyes,
hang on their every word, and make them feel important. There
is
nothing more appealing than having
someone listen to you intently making you feel like you're
the only person in the world.
Read more and expand your interests:
The more you read and cultivate new interests, the more interesting
you are to others. When you meet new people it gives you the
opportunity to
share what you know and to exchange your views with them.
Be a good conversationalist:
This relates to how much you read and know. Once you have
much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others.
No one
can read about or know everything, so it's refreshing to learn
from
others those things we
don't have the time to about read ourselves. If you happen to
be
shy, join a
group lthat encourages you to talk about
what you
know.
Have an Opinion:
There is nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to
someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has
nowhere
to go if you have nothing to expound on. If, however, you
have an
uncommon point of view or differing opinion, you are more
interesting and stimulating to
be with socially (unless you're a know-it-all, of course).
A unique outlook
expands everyone's perspective.
Meet New People:
Make the effort to meet new people especially those unlike
you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and
alternative ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.
Be yourself:
The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is
trying to be something you're not.
Molding yourself in order to fit in, or be accepted, usually
backfires.
Since each of us is unique,
expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting.
Attempting to
be a carbon copy of someone else not only falls flat, but
reveals a lack of
authenticity.
Have a positive
outlook and attitude:
Who wants to be around people who are negative, complain a
lot, or have nothing good to say? In fact, most of us run
when we see
them coming. Instead, be the kind of upbeat person who
lights up a room with
your energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the best
in people and
things. Smile warmly, spread good cheer, and enliven others
with
your presence.
Be fun and see the humorous side of life:
Everyone enjoys the company of someone who makes
them laugh, or smile,
so look for the humorous,
quirky side in a situation - there always is one. Comic
relief is a
much welcome and needed diversion at times. When you can add
fun
and lightheartedness to an otherwise dull or gloomy setting,
others
will naturally be attracted to you, not to mention grateful.
Be supportive of others:
Being supportive is probably the most endearing quality you
can integrate
into your personality. Just as you yourself welcome it,
be the support
for others when they need it. We all love a cheerleader in
our
corner; someone
who is encouraging, believes in us and helps pick us up when
we're
down.
Have Integrity and treat people with respect:
Being honest and true to your word will bring you the
admiration, respect and gratitude of others. Nothing
improves a person's
personality more than integrity and respect - respect for others, as well as respect for
yourself.
