We all have dreams and goals. Some of them are simply wishes, like winning the lottery or sailing to Tahiti. But we also have goals that are vital to our futures and the well-being of our families. And yet many of us make little or no progress toward achieving our most important goals. We wait and hope, but get no closer to our dreams.1. Clarity of purpose:
It doesn't have to be that way! We all know people who soar from one project to another, achieving their goals and living the life they want. How do they do it?
For a dream to become a goal, it must
be specific. While it's fun to dream about being rich, it takes courage
and hard choices to decide exactly how much money you want and how you
are going to earn it. Being "thin" is an image; losing 23 pounds by your
birthday is a goal. In life, we probably can't have it all. You can
lose 23 pounds, or you can have the cake and ice cream. Your choice. Be
clear.
2. Commitment:
There's a story from ancient Greece about a
general who landed his troupes on the beach, then burned his ships. He
wanted each soldier to know there was no turning back, no retreat, no
alternative to victory. Once your goal is clear, emotionally commit to
achieving it. There are no alternatives.
3. Talk about it:
This is called "accountability." Once you've
defined your goal and committed yourself to achieve it, start talking
about it! If you want to lose weight, don't blame your spouse for buying
ice cream if he or she doesn't know and understand your goal! Talking
about your goals makes them emotionally real and powerful. It allows
people to help you reach your goal and support you along the way. Some
people will also criticize or undermine you. Don't talk to them.
This is basic, and one of the oldest,
simplest and most powerful techniques for achieving any goal. Write it
down! Describe precisely what you want, how you will earn it, when you
will have it and the benefits you'll receive from achieving your goal.
Write the details. Write the colors, the shapes and the dates.
5. Repeat it every day!
Every morning, use a small card or a
corner of your appointment book to record a short description of your
goal where you will see it all day long. Don't carry the same card day
after day! If your goal is worth anything, it's worth one minute of your
time to write a simple sentence describing your dream and focusing on
your priorities. Do this every morning.
6. Have a plan:
Create a map for getting there. And put dates
on it! A goal to retire at age 40 has no meaning without a savings and
investment strategy. A goal to create your own business is just a
fantasy without a plan to attract investors, find a location, hire staff
and sell your goods or services. The beauty of a plan is that it shows
you a path to your goal.
7. Take action every day!
"A journey of a thousand miles
begins with a single step." Any goal that is worthy of you is worth a
few minutes of your time and some of your energy every single day. To
write a novel, write a chapter this week. To open your own business,
read a business magazine today. To create a more loving family, give
someone a hug today. To be salesperson of the year, make a phone call
right now!
8. Use constant affirmations:
One of my clients is a PGA
golfer. From the moment his ball lands on the green until he sinks the
putt, he repeats over and over "I will make this putt!" He repeats that
phrase as many as 200 times before every putt! Do you think he would be
more, or less, successful if he spent those moments thinking, "I just
hope I don't miss it"? Tell yourself what you want to hear!
9. Review, and re-commit, often:
Never be afraid to review
your goals, evaluate whether you are still 100% committed to them, and
re-commit to achieving them. If your values or your choices have
changed, change your goals accordingly, and be honest about it! And if
your goal still fits, run to it with all your heart!
10. Celebrate each milestone!
Never wait to have a party! Each
deposit in your savings account deserves a check-mark on the calendar
and a hug from your partner. Each day without a cigarette deserves a
smile and congratulations from your loved ones. Every step toward your
goal should be documented and celebrated! When you get discouraged or
have doubts, your record of past successes will quickly get you back on
track. Not sure about this? Ask any marathon runner whether they count
each mile on their run to the finish line! Celebrate each and every
milepost on your path to victory!
By/ Dr Philip E. Humbert
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